HEY MOM. IT’S NOT NORMAL TO BE TIRED EVERY SINGLE DAY
Moms do a lot, from taking care of the kids to working to running errands to scheduling appointments and so much more. It’s not unusual to be tired (who wouldn’t be tired after all of that!?), but it’s also not normal to be tired every single day. If you find yourself feeling exhausted on a daily basis, it could be a sign you’re overworking yourself and aren’t taking care of your health. Why is it a problem to be so tired, and what can you do about it? Here’s what to know.
WHY AM I TIRED ALL OF THE TIME?
Feeling tired can be caused by a variety of factors, including lack of sleep, stress, poor nutrition, or even an underlying medical condition. For new moms, disrupted sleep can be a big cause of exhaustion. MD Now says that mothers have been shown to lose an average of 41.2 minutes of nighttime sleep during pregnancy and postpartum, and moms who breastfeed lose slightly more. This lack of sleep can cause all sorts of issues for physical and mental health, employment, relationships, and parental competence.[i]
As a child gets older, Mom’s exhaustion may be more due to the demands of being a parent as well as the emotional toll being a parent can take, rather than simply lack of sleep. Moms may feel overwhelmed by trying to cross everything off their to-do list, from household chores to work duties to childcare and more. If a mom doesn’t have a strong support system to lean on, this can feel like an even greater burden. In addition to managing tasks, moms may feel tired from the emotional side effects of being a mom, which often include feelings of inadequacy and feeling like a bad mom, fear of losing control, and fear of losing your sense of self.
There’s even a name for this form of exhaustion caused by feeling physically and emotionally overwhelmed from parenting: Mommy fatigue. You may notice symptoms like perfectionism, self-pressure, running on autopilot, loneliness, guilt, and more.[ii] All of these things can lead to burnout and exhaustion, which is bad for your health and does not make for an enjoyable life.
WHY IS CONSTANT EXHAUSTION A PROBLEM
Maybe it seems like moms are “supposed to” be tired all the time. That shows you're prioritizing your child and making sacrifices for your family, right? In reality, constant exhaustion can wreak havoc on your health. Fatigue often occurs alongside symptoms like depression, muscle pain, difficulty concentrating, whole-body tiredness, impatience, and more.[iii] The mental load that many moms carry (a combination of remembering tasks that must be completed and having negative feelings about yourself) can feel overwhelming and lead to depression, anxiety, and stress. Long-term stress can negatively impact your immune system, digestion, cardiovascular system, sleep, and reproductive system. It can also cause headaches and feelings of sadness, irritability, and anger. Over time, the strain from chronic stress can contribute to health issues like diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, anxiety, and depression.[iv]
Constantly feeling exhausted could also cause you to seek comfort in unhealthy coping mechanisms like alcohol or substance abuse. Even drinking too many cups of coffee in a day just for a little bit of energy isn’t good for you.
WHAT CAN YOU DO ABOUT FEELING TIRED?
Stop trying to be perfect
The first step in helping you feel better is to realize that there’s no such thing as a perfect mom, and trying to be perfect at every aspect of motherhood will only lead to feeling physically and emotionally drained. Instead, try to focus on being the best mom you can be for your child based on the unique needs of your family.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, reach out to someone, whether that’s a friend, family member, or a therapist. If you suspect there’s an undiagnosed health condition contributing to your fatigue, schedule a time to talk with your doctor.
Setting boundaries for yourself can also help reduce the amount of pressure you’re putting on yourself from trying to be perfect or please other people. You don’t have to say yes to every request from other people, and you don’t need to check off every single item on your to-do list each day. Say no to people when you need to (and don’t feel bad about doing so!), delegate tasks when you can, and make time for self-care.
Pay attention to what you eat and drink
Is every meal a store-bought frozen meal? Are you reaching for drinks loaded with sugar or chemicals? Making an effort to eat and drink healthy is a great way to increase your energy and make you feel better all around. This doesn’t mean every meal has to be perfectly healthy. Instead, start by making small changes, like adding a few nutritious, home-cooked meals to your week with a focus on incorporating more veggies, or drinking water instead of juice and soda.
Watch your caffeine intake
Consuming more than 400 milligrams of caffeine per day - or approximately four cups of brewed coffee - could lead to some unpleasant side effects. If you drink more than four cups of coffee every day and experience headaches, insomnia, irritability, or nervousness, you may want to reduce your caffeine intake.[v]
HOW CAN LADYBIRD HELP THE TIRED MAMA?!
Don’t worry, that doesn’t mean you have to give up coffee altogether! Ladybird’s Coffee Bombs and Dry Bombs provide a range of health benefits to make your coffee (or tea) better for you and give you that long-lasting energy you’ve been craving. Here’s how: Coconut oil is easy to digest, produces a longer sustained energy and increases metabolism. Bovine Collagen is rich in specific amino acids necessary for building healthy DNA and RNA strands, promoting healthy muscle growth and aiding in energy production. Grass-Fed Butter provides a dose of short- and medium-chain triglycerides (MCTs), which are great for supporting the immune system and boosting metabolism. The MCTs found in butter (and coconut oil) are able to be converted immediately into fuel for your body’s muscles and organs.
Coffee Bombs are a form of pre-made butter coffee that you add to a cup of coffee. They contain organic coconut oil, grass-fed butter, and grass-fed bovine collagen peptides or organic hemp protein plus medicinal spices. These ingredients work together to help stabilize blood sugars, reduce sugar cravings, increase energy and improve your focus.
Dry Bombs are dairy-free creamers that contain 7-9g of collagen protein per serving, plus medicinal-grade organic spices to provide even more health benefits. Instead of loading your coffee with sugar, which may give you a brief spike in energy but cause you to crash hard later on, try Dry Bombs as an alternative.
You’ve got this, mama!
Being a mom isn’t always easy. If you’re feeling tired every single day, know it doesn’t have to be like this. Take a moment to consider what factors might be contributing to your exhaustion and the healthy steps you can take to increase your energy.
[iv] https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/stress/[v] https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/nutrition-and-healthy-eating/in-depth/caffeine/art-20045678